Dearly beloved, the audience is gathered right here right now to complete this thing labeled as⦠a period finale! Yes, its real, the occurrence represents the termination of absolutely the smash hit that was S2 of
Hold Off, So Is This A Date?
Also to celebrate that ending, whom easier to come-on and talk about the joys and positive results of an extended distance crush, than actor and queer person Elise Bauman? You may acknowledge Elise from life’s delightful queer xmas rom-com which come down last year,
Underneath The Xmas Tree
,
but around these parts, she’s got another subject that is almost as vaunted: Drew’s sweetheart! Yes, you got that right, this sparkling twosome ended up being birthed from the great queer tradition: the long-distance crush.
Exactly what could it be regarding long-distance crush that will be so appealing to queers all over the world? Can it be the family member scarcity of like minded queers around you? even the capability to flirt long distance takes certain stress off? The 3 people get into everything, AND Drew and Elise share some possibly also sweet information about their own commitment!
Not to mention there can be a game! This week, I make Drew play the video game that simply took more than Twitter and Tiktok for some fleeting months: “They may be a 10 but⦔ It’s a great time, all-around!
PROGRAM NOTES
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Read Drew’s meeting with Jinx Monsoon
!
+ View
Bend it Like Beckham
,
it nevertheless rocks!
+ Johnny Sibilly’s thighs are⦠without a doubt rather powerful!
+ will likely Shortz is in fact the name of this NYT Crossword publisher!
*the more you know*
EPISODE
Elise
: after which we had gotten off of the cellphone, and we both hopped regarding the phone two moments afterwards we are like, “so that the line is actually shut, we are lawfully banned to truly get across the line.”
Christina
: i am talking about, leading among certainly one of the best voice memos and or texts I managed to get from Drew, I can’t remember which form it came in, it absolutely was like, “I made this plan and from now on the edges are closed.” Yeah.
Elise
: Yeah, it was an actual second.
[theme tune performs]
Drew
: Hi, I Am Drew.
Christina
: And I’m Christina.
Drew
: And thanks for visiting
Wait, Is This A Romantic Date?
Christina
:
Hold Off, So Is This A Date?
is actually an Autostraddle podcast brought to you by me having the giggles, as well as the question which on everybody’s mouth, wait, was actually this a date?
Drew
: We’re after our very own 2nd season, and I also believe we solved it, In my opinion.
Christina
: Yeah, i do believe i am simply delivering large finale electricity, like when comedies was once before a facility audience, and everybody would walk in there ended up being an hour of applause because it was actually like, this is the last, that’s how I’m feeling. Though becoming clear, not one person has actually applauded me personally yet, hateful. Thank-you, thanks. Now I feel liked and held. Drew, who are you?
Drew
: Oh wow, forgot about that part.
Christina
: Yeah, proper?
Drew:
Possibly period three we’ll get the intros. I’m called Drew Gregory, Im a writer for Autostraddle, a filmmaker, a queer trans girl. Do you know what, i believe whenever we would another period i do want to have a great one we throw in at the end.
Christina
: Ooh, anything spicy, you wish to jazz it up?
Drew
: Yeah, There isn’t such a thing today however.
Christina
: Okay, leave them wishing a lot more, i do believe that’s great.
Drew
: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Christina
: Im Christina Tucker, i will be also a writer at Autostraddle, therefore the internet most importantly. A podcaster, a porn gay black lady, and someone that’s feeling quite jazzy listed here with this mid-day.
Drew
: Great, i am really pleased that you’re flashy and I also’m spicy, or perhaps i am planning the possibility that someday I’ll be spicy.
Christina
: Yes you are like, I’m not sure, the very first half of the movie Dune, the spice can come. Cool reference, females, she’s solitary. Anyway, i really do have a game title for us to try out with this hollowed day of all of our finale.
Drew
: Incredible.
Christina
: This Is Actually The traditional, by classic I Am Talking About a game title that annexed the net and TikTok for two to three weeks, “They Truly Are a 10, but⦔
Drew
: Ah, great.
Christina
: Now Drew, i’ll lay out some floor regulations for your needs, because I’m sure you adore a follow-up question.
Drew
: Great.
Christina
: As I state they truly are a 10, they can be a 10 for you by any means that counts to you personally, that might be actually, which can be psychologically, this is just one you think is actually a 10, okay?
Drew
: Okay, fine, thanks a lot.
Christina
: I do n’t have any circumstances for what else you contained in this person were doing in your internet dating life, you are just probably have to go together with your instinct and decide.
Drew
: Cool.
Christina
: All right?
Drew
: Yes.
Christina
: We’re going to place where make that obvious, right here we get. They can be a 10, nonetheless they clap as soon as the jet countries.
Drew
: i felt like citizens were as well remarkable with this, in which it is like they’re a 10 which thing means they are head to a two, come-on.
Christina
: Yes.
Drew
: thus I’m gonna nonetheless offer a fairly substantial eight.
Christina
: Yeah, i do believe that’s fair. I do believe eight will be the correct quantity of cringe reduction for the little action. Fine, this is certainly a great beginning. Okay, they may be a nine nonetheless never ever text you initially.
Drew
: and I also cannot ask follow-up concerns?
Christina
: No, no, no.
Drew
: and so i are unable to ask, really perform they text me back when I text? I would personally state a five.
Christina
: Yeah, maybe not texting basic actually, that is harsh.
Drew
: ever before is strange.
Christina
: which is crude stuff. Okay, they have been a five nevertheless they drive you to every errand that you have ever had to run.
Drew
: which is very nice, but I could always⦠If there have been five, I’ll give him a six.
Christina
: Sure, sure. But I’m sure you like a solamente jaunt anyway, you love an errand run.
Drew
:after all these days my sweetheart Elise did drive us to an errand, and I had been really thankful, however, if which was the only thing she performed we wouldn’t take a connection, that has been simply an additional bit wonderful extra.
Christina
: In my opinion that is reasonable.
Drew
: Yeah.
Christina
: All right, they might be a seven even so they merely pretend to read your work.
Drew
: See the part of that that bothers me is the pretend.
Christina
: Pretending, I realized it would be.
Drew
: it isn’t the maybe not checking out it. As long as they failed to read my work it is like, I’m not that, I would be somewhat, its like never? But it is fine, I could get over it. Nonetheless rest to me about that is really what’s weird in my opinion, in order thatwill go lower to a three.
Christina
: Yeah, proper, correct. These are generally a three nonetheless they gain access to the criterion dresser.
Drew
: And carry out I have you to get?
Christina
: while get accessibility, you benefit from that access, yes.
Drew
: i really could have an excellent fling thereupon six.
Christina
: i do believe you can. It actually was a three, but yeah, you are knocking it up to a six.
Drew
: No, no, no, that’s what I’m claiming, i am knocking it up to a six.
Christina
: Gotcha, gotcha. I love that. They’re an eight but all of their buddies are straight.
Drew
: Okay, there was clearly some discussion about any of it, because I think there was clearly a you may need help. I believe We possibly had been regarding other side of many for the Autostraddle team who asserted that it really is okay to simply have straight friends. I would like to point out that its okay, it’s just perhaps not the life span I lead. All straight buddies, that’s going to head to a-two.
Christina
: Yeah, I’m going to need trust you on that one, i might merely believe it is a little unpleasant, perplexing.
Drew
: All right pals?
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: if they are not used to queerness consequently they are wanting to satisfy even more queer folks, which is different than if they are an established season queer who’s want, guess what happens? I prefer getting the one lesbian inside my buddy set of straight people.
Christina
: Yeah, i’d feel the same manner whether or not it had been a dark person who was actually like, “I don’t have any Black friends,” i’d be like, “What’s going on there?” Internally.
Drew
: We’re not in a system sitcom, we cannot have a token person.
Christina
: you should not be the token, you don’t have to accomplish that to your self. Okay, we’ve got three more. They’ve been a seven even so they spend-all their unique spare time in the gym, consistently strength training along. I am not sure what people carry out at the gym.
Drew
: their time. I guess it depends about what matters as sparetime. We’ll say a five.
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: we’ll bump them down two.
Christina
: Bump all of them down.
Drew
: But that’s great. I guess it all depends mainly in my situation, which I’m maybe not asking a follow question, I’m following five, but it is dependent for me what truly matters as leisure time.
Christina
: Certain.
Drew
: are we able to enjoy movies with each other, or venture out for eating, is the fact that time? Is not work time free-time, or perhaps is it really like as soon as we lack other activities?
Christina
: I listen to you, we listen to you.
Drew
: But I’ll stick with five.
Christina
: okay. They truly are six, but their mother is actually hotter than they truly are.
Drew
: Oh, I don’t know to move up or down.
Christina
: I know, appropriate?
Drew
: I really don’t imagine i really could ever date some one for their⦠its like easily’m perhaps not attracted to some one originally, I’m most likely not gonna be matchmaking them.
Christina
: Appropriate.
Drew
: I am not likely to be like, really, they could end up as their particular hot mom. I believe I’d declare that they are nonetheless a six, i am simply planning to not refer to them as and I’m planning to contact their mother.
Christina
: Yeah, I believe think its great’s as if you stay similar, but maybe I go out to you somewhat more than I would personally with the purpose-
Drew
: that is a beneficial point.
Christina
: for some mom time. I really don’t think you transform.
Drew
: i did so some thing truly terrible that we however think defectively when it comes to, and that is that somebody asked me personally down, this had been whenever I was a student in university, and that I wasn’t interested, therefore I ended up being obvious about that, I became clear I wasn’t interested. However she wanted to be friends, and that I could tell that she said she wanted to end up being friends it had been coming from destination-
Christina
: She was hoping.
Drew
: Yeah. Although thing is all of her buddies had been truly hot and cool, I really performed always been the woman friend to go out along with her friends. I didn’t rest about my personal purposes generally, nonetheless it nevertheless was not the nicest thing I did as a 20 year-old.
Christina
: What i’m saying is unfortunately it really reminds me personally of the episode of
Sex and City
in which Carrie’s dating, I think it is Justin Theroux, and then he sucks, but his household rocks, and she actually is like, i will do that for slightly. I’m like, yeah, definitely, who couldn’t.
Drew
: Carrie was not attempting to get together along with his family, the difference, but you know very well what? It really is good, we’re all great.
Christina
: A hookup will appear like everything, I’m always saying that.
Drew
: that is a very great point.
Christina
: the final one, is actually a three but has actually a beach home.
Drew
: I’m going to state an annoying sentence, but I decided to go to NYU.
Christina
: awful to state.
Drew
: something which sucks about myself, which this might be browsing seem like a humble brag, because it’s really probably a personality attribute, it sucks as you going through the globe. I went to a college which is full of wealthy those that have a number of amazing coastline residences, and all of these other things, and that I just became friends with people who had been there on scholarships. Not just, but mainly, we surely, I didn’t socialize with others who had beach houses.
Christina
: You didn’t make use of.
Drew
: Yeah, I really think if they’re a three however they have actually a beach house, they can be probably a-two. The fact⦠I’m not sure.
Christina
: Yeah, you merely can not generate that step to use the ill beach household time.
Drew
: No, it sucks. Exactly what I’m actually hoping is my buddies that are pretty down-to-earth, great individuals, more and more ones are simply just gonna always get that brand new money right after which get coastline homes, then i will be in a position to go out with my fantastic buddies and get at a beach home. That is the dream in which I could get the beach house.
Christina
: That’s the dream at the end of your day, it is brand new cash and a beach residence, that is all we are searching for. You heard it here 1st individuals.
Drew
: i enjoy brand-new money.
Christina
: Love new money.
Drew
: Love brand-new cash. Yeah, that has been a delight. I’d actually, I’d actually been planning to play that game because it had been something on TikTok, therefore thank you so much for making my personal aspirations become a reality.
Christina
: I imagined it might be an enjoyable a person to do, therefore had been really enjoyable to come up with them.
Drew
: Well, should we proceed to the major sector associated with the few days, that’s falling for people who reside in some other metropolitan areas. Which is distinct from long distance interactions, because long distance interactions can begin well into a connection, they are able to carry on into an union, this is the need that queer people have to check out their unique location that they reside and go, no, I’m not probably flirt with your folks, i will go on instagram.com in order to find an individual who life really far-away. So we have actually a, I’m sure we constantly say a tremendously special guest, however for myself this is certainly an extremely special visitor. Do you want to present your self?
Elise
: i might love to introduce myself personally. In the morning I the special guest?
Drew
: you might be, yes.
Christina
: Baby, of course.
Elise
: Great, wow, incredible. I’m Elise Bauman, I’m an actor, I’m a queer person, and I also’m here now because i am asleep with among the hosts.
Christina
: Guess what type?
Elise
: Yeah, the rest of the podcast is only the market attempting decipher which variety i am sleeping with. I prefer that, its like a murder secret but-
Christina
: there is method to understand.
Elise
: there is no strategy to understand. Yeah, does this create myself a nepotism baby? Would be that the way the business works.
Christina
: Yes, which is how sector really works, babe.
Elise
: cool, good.
Christina
: this is exactly it.
Elise
: Wow, perhaps i possibly could get a vocation out of this.
Christina
: fingertips entered available.
Elise
: Nepo child to career, wow, great. I’ve always planned to end up being a nepo infant.
Christina
: I’m very glad.
Drew
: Yeah, I happened to be just gonna declare that for people who don’t know, really I am just destroying the murder mystery from it all, but Elise and that I come in a commitment, and did start dating throughout pandemic, and Elise stays in Toronto, and I also live-in l . a ., which are indeed various metropolitan areas, as they are indeed in numerous countries.
Elise
: These include undoubtedly, they might be indeed.
Christina
: And Drew, not saying you moved against your instinct, but i actually do feel as though you will be frequently a person who states, exactly why work with a lengthy range time? You can find people the following I’m able to date, how come this to yourself? You are sure that it will be difficult, you know it will be challenging, exactly why do this? And yet right here you might be.
Drew
: See, that is fascinating, because i’m like i usually enjoyed to possess a little of both, i simply think i did not take the long-distance people perhaps as really.
Christina
: Maybe that’s it, yeah.
Drew
: But i usually liked an extended distance flirt.
Christina
: Real.
Drew
: therefore i think this just held going. When we started-
Elise
: and so the response, Drew, was not that I happened to be merely amazing therefore was individual to me, and this was actually extremely specific in my experience that I was simply extremely attractive you only smashed all of your current rules and you mentioned, “i must have any particular one.”
Drew
: i am talking about it is type of the solution in an extended sense. In the same manner which simply kept taking place. Following our buddys of pod, Mal Blum and Gab Dunn, just who I used to live with, as some of you may already know, i might continually be like, I’d be trying to date people during the pandemic in L. A. in addition to encompassing regions of Los Angeles. And they would make fun of me because I would personally often you should be similar, “I mean, i possibly could merely just be sure to date Elise Bauman.” I happened to be constantly, “i am talking about, {this person|this i